References and Duahs for Nikaa (Marriage)

References for Marriage in the Holy Qur’an

The Holy Qur’an says : O mankind! Reverence your Lord, who created you from a single person, created, of like nature, his mate, and from this pair scattered (like seeds) countless men and women. Reverence Allah, through Whom you demand your mutual (rights), and reverence the wombs (that bore you); for Allah ever watches over you. (4:1)
The Holy Qur’an says, “And among His signs is this, that He has created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them; and He has put love and mercy between you. Verily in that are signs for those who reflect.” (30:21)
And give women their due dowery, but if they of themselves be pleased to give up to you a portion of it, then enjoy and with wholesome result” (4:4)
O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should you treat them with harshness, that you may take away part of the dowry you have given them except when they have become guilty of open lewdness. On the contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If you take a dislike to them, it may be that you dislike something and Allah will bring about through it a great deal of good. (4:19)
Your wives are your garment and you are a garment for them. (2:187)
For Muslim men and women, for believing men and women, for devout men and women, for true men and women, for men and women who are patient and constant, for men and women who humble themselves, for men and women who give in charity, for men and women who fast, for men and women who guard their chastity, and for men and women who engage much in Allah’s praise, for them has Allah prepared forgiveness and great reward. (33:35)
References for Marriage in the Hadiths
The Rasul (saws) said, “Women are the twin halves of men“. (Sahih Bukhari)
The Prophet Muhammad (saws) was full of praise for virtuous and chaste women.: “The world and all things in the world are precious but the most precious thing in the world is a virtuous woman. He once told the future Caliph, ‘Umar: “Shall I not inform you about the best treasure a man can hold? It is a virtuous wife who pleases him whenever he looks towards her, and who guards herself when he is absent from her.” “The best property a man can have is a remembering tongue (about Allah), a grateful heart and a believing wife who helps him in his faith.” And again: “The world, the whole of it, is a commodity and the best of the commodities of the world is a virtuous wife.” (Sahih Muslim)
The Prophet Muhammad (saws) said: “Fear Allah in respect of women. The best of you are they who behave best to their wives.” “A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good.” The more civil and kind a Muslim husband is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is.” (Sahih Muslim)
The Prophet Muhammad (saws) said: “Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means.” (Sahih Muslim)
The Prophet Muhammad (saws) said: “Among my followers the best of men are those who are best to their wives, and the best of women are those who are best to their husbands. To each of such women is set down a reward equivalent to the reward of a thousand martyrs. Among my followers, again, the best of women are those who assist their husbands in their work, and love them dearly for everything, save what is a transgression of Allah’s laws.” (Sahih Muslim)
The Holy Prophet (S.A.W.) said, “There are five things which bring salvation: (1) a worthy wife; (2) a well-behaved son; (3) a well-behaved daughter; (4) a good companion to help for one’s daily bread; and (5) friendship with the descendants of the Prophet (S.A.W.). (Sahih Bukhari)
On another occasion the Prophet (s.a.w.) said: “The best people of my nation (Ummat) are those who get married and have chosen their wives, and the worst people of my nation are those who have kept away from marriage and are passing their lives as bachelors.”. The Prophet (s.a.w.) also said, “Whosoever likes to follow my tradition, then he should know that marriage is from my tradition.” (Sahih Muslim)
Duat for the Marriage
Duat #1: “Transliteration: Allahummar zuqni ilfahaa wa wuddaha wa riz”aaha bi; warz”ini biha, wa-ajma’ baynana bi ah’sane ijtimaa’in wa anasi i-tilafin; fa innaka tuh’ibbul h’alaala wa tukrihul h’araam. Translation: O Allah! Bless me with her affection, love and her acceptance of me; and make me pleased with her, and bring us together in the best form of a union and in absolute harmony; surely You like lawful things and dislike unlawful things.
Duat #2: Transliteration: Allahumma bi amaanatika akhadhtuha wa bi kalimaatika is-tah’laltuha. Fa in qaz”ayta li minha waladan, faj-‘alhu mubaarakan taqiyyan min Shi’ati Aal-i Muh’ammad (s’al-lal-laahu a’layhi wa aalihi wa sallam) wa laa taj-‘al lish Shayt’aani fihi shirkan wa laa naseeba. Translation: O Allah! I have taken her as your trust and have made her lawful for myself by your words. Therefore, if You have decreed for me a child from her, then make him/her blessed and pious from among the followers of the Family of Muhammad [peace be upon him and them]; and do not let Satan have any part in him/her.
Duat #3: Transliteration: Allaahumma laa tadharni fardanw wa anta khairul waaretheen wah’eedanw wah’sheeyan fayaqs’uroo a’n tafakkori bal habli a’afiyata s’idqin dhokooranw wa onaathan aanaso behim minal wah’shate wa askuno ilaihim minal wah’date wa ashkoroka I’nda tamaame ne’matin yaa wahhaabo yaa a’zeemo yaa mo-a’z’z’amo thumma a’at’eni fee kulle a’afiyatin shukran h’atta tabloghani minha riz”waanoka fee s’idqil h’adeethe adaaail amaanate wa waqaaain bil ‘ahde Translation: O Allah! Do not keep me solitary though You are the best of Inheritors. I am alone and terrified of loneliness. This worry has reduced my thankfulness to You. So bestow on me true forgiveness and give me female and male children so that by their company I can cure my terror of loneliness. By which my loneliness is cured. So that on the completion of this bounty I can thank You. O the greatest Giver, O the Greatest, O the Bestower of greatness, after this bestows me with tawfeeq that I thank You for every kindness. Till I can achieve Your kindness by thankfulness, by speaking the truth, by returning trusts and by fulfilling oaths.
Duat #4: “Transliteration:’Bismillahir Rahman ir Raheeem Allahummar An Kah’tu nafsaka a’lal mah’ril ma’loom’. Translation: In the name of Allah the most gracious and merciful “Oh Allah I have given away myself in Nikah, on the agreed Mahr.”
Duat #5: “Transliteration: Bismillah hir Rah’maanir Rah’eem. Allaahumma inni oreedo an atazawwaja faqaddirli minannisaa-e- a-‘affahunna farjawn wa ah’faz’ahunna li fi nafseha wa maali wa aw sa-a’-hunna li rizqan wa a’-z’amahunna li barakatan fi nafseha wa maali anna atroko faqaddirli minha waladan t’ayyaban taj-a’lahu khalafan s’aaleh’an fi h’ayaati wa ba’da mauti“. Translation: In the name of Allah the Beneficent, the Merciful. O Allah! I intend to marry. Therefore destined for me is the most chaste of women and one who would, for my sake, guard herself and my property. Who shall be most auspicious for increase in sustenance and bounties. Then from her womb bestow a pure child who would be my sweet reminiscence in my life and after my death.
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